Posted by thedarwinexception on June 12, 2008
So I think we jinxed the sad girl.
Since I thought that *her* shower should have been on Sunday – you know, since she was the one due first, and with timing and all that, and since I worried that she had nothing for *her* baby, doesn’t she go to the doctor’s two days after the shower – and doesn’t he tell her that she has to come to the hospital the next day to be induced because her baby is “in distress”.
So she went to the hospital Wednesday and delivered her baby boy – premature – last night at 10:00.
The baby is doing fine – although he weighs a little less than 4 pounds.
Should I mention that the first thing that crossed my mind when they said it was “in distress” and “premature” and “less than 4 pounds” was “Well, tell her to have another fucking CIGARETTE???”
Don’t get me on my rant about pregnant women who smoke, but I *WILL* say that a good test of whether or not you are ready to be a mother is to ask yourself “Can I give up smoking for 9 months?” If the answer to that question is “No, No I can’t give up smoking for 9 months”, then chances are you are way to selfish and self indulgent to be a parent. Because believe me, once you have kids you’ll be giving up way more than a cigarette. Hell, you won’t even be on the toilet alone for at least 4 years. Kids like to watch you pee.
But, I think we jinxed her.
Paul went over to the house where she’s living (with her boyfriends’ parents, the ones that gave their daughter a shower on Sunday), and they were wondering “gee, I don’t know *what* we are going to do!” Sad girl has NO diapers, sad girl doesn’t even have a crib or bottles for the baby or any clothes or ANYTHING!” I told Paul – “gee, maybe they should have given her a SHOWER”. But, Paul is firmly of the mind that it wasn’t their responsibility to give her a shower, that her own family should have done that, and that, besides, if you don’t have the means and wherewithal to buy your baby a crib or diapers, well, maybe you shouldn’t be having the kid in the first place. And, both are very valid points. I mean, her boyfriend’s parents are giving her a place to live, feeding her and paying for her meals. Maybe they feel that’s “shower” enough. And really, who can argue with them? There’s only so much they can do, I suppose.
Oh – and did I mention? The baby’s father is in jail. Yeah, that’s right. In jail. So sad girl had to deliver her baby alone. Which was sad enough in itself. But did make me wonder if that means his name can’t be on the birth certificate, since he wasn’t there to sign it. I wonder how that works. Just because I wonder about stupid shit like that.
Anyway, I’m knitting and sewing up a frenzy for her. The baby will be in the hospital for a while, at least until it gets to 5 pounds or so, and since she isn’t breastfeeding (why, I don’t know, I think that would be the best thing for the kid – and her – Breast milk is free), that might take at least a couple of weeks. I’d like to have some things ready for her when the baby comes home. And I may go and buy something for her to bring the baby home in. Everyone likes something cute and new and nice to bring their baby home from the hospital in, right?
But, if anyone wants to send her or the baby something, I’ll find out her last name and you can email me and I’ll send her address to you. I think you should send the stuff right to her – I think that would brighten her day – to get mail and nice things for her baby.
Oh and the baby’s name is Jeremy. Which surprised me – that it wasn’t a weird or odd name. Good for her.